“A father’s tears and fears are unseen, his love is unexpressed, but his care and protection remains as a pillar of strength throughout our lives” -Ama H. Vanniarachchy
“You are a lot like your dad”
Oh if I were to get a dollar every time someone told me that, all my money problems would vanish!
Yeah It is true I am a lot like my dad. And I love hearing that!
It is neither father’s day today, nor my father’s birthday. I just realized there is a lot I learn from him everyday. And as I celebrate my father today (for no apparent reason- I am just feeling thankful), here are the life lessons that I am privileged to learn from him;
I have known him all my life. He is the type that wouldn’t admit that he cares, but it is all over his actions. He is hard on the outside, but very soft on the inside. I am raised by a father who knows what it means to have less and to have plenty. The man who raised me has done all kinds of jobs just to get me and my siblings to school, to get food on the table, to meet deadlines and cover all the bills. I have seen him work as a gardener, I have seen him selling shoes, at a point he sold second-hand cloths, and even sold food on the streets. I have seen him grow from an average trader to a business man, from a business man to one of the most influential people in the country. And I know, he still has a lot more to give to the world.
I have seen him lose the woman of his dreams as she bore him a son that he was excited to raise, who later died; and afterwards, he lost his mother. All this in a range of less than five years. And through it all, the pain and the heart ache only made him stronger.
My father is the last child out of his 11 siblings! He was the youngest, and my granddad loved him very much(At least that’s what he Brags about) In most of his early adulthood, he was the youngest, if not, then he was always the shortest! In many ways this has taught him to never feel intimidated because of his height, weight or age. And ooh yes intimidating him is the most difficult thing to do. He would tell my little brothers “Don’t let anyone intimidate you” And he will emphasize that by reciting his favorite quote “Your value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth”
He is very strong . Even on the things that we are not expecting him to be, he is tough. He likes to think he is big enough to fight his giants on his own. To save us all from the hurt, he would naturally refrain from ever telling us what he is going through, we would sometimes get a glimpse when he says ‘Life is not a bed of Roses’ with a grin on his face. Aaah dad, you just won’t get defeated!
He is a man who knows his worth, and lives it! He doesn’t let failure define him. He has taught me to know my value, and carry myself with account to that value. He has raised himself and his own in the foundation of the Biblical truth and his faith has taken him through the many trials and challenges that life had to offer. He is the man that intensely knows what it means to fail, what it means to lose, what it means to be undervalued, underprivileged, and treated without dignity. His sufferings, were only preparing him for the responsibilities he is now accountable for. And of course, despite his many failures when he gets into the rut, it doesn’t take long for him to get back on his feet and try one more time.
Creatively and strategically he has worked his way through, he is persistent. when he wants something he goes get it. And he has taught us that, not just by mere words, but through his choices and words and lifestyle. Unconsciously, we have grasped what it is to believe in our ability, to be confident in our own skin, to value ourselves, to work hard, to be humble, to love and to always always sharpen our skills. He would teasingly say “In order to attract the attractive, you need to be attractive yourself!”
I owe it to my dad, to be the best version of myself!
Until next time